Leaving an Emotionally Abusive Relationship Through Divorce
When one partner is physically abusive towards the other there is usually physical evidence of their violent conduct. However, when a husband or wife is emotionally abusive, the damage can be harder to detect and prove. When the victim cannot see tangible signs of what is being done to them, it can be harder to recognize the abuse. By the time the abused person finally realizes what is happening he or she may have fallen into a severely dysfunctional dynamic. While deciding to leave this kind of relationship can be a healthy and appropriate choice, going through the divorce can be challenging.
Brace Yourself
If you have been with an emotionally volatile partner who is used to berating and yelling at you, you can expect that his or her reaction to your departure may include this same kind of behavior. Your ex may also attempt to manipulate you into being alone with them and agreeing to divorce terms which are solely to his or her benefit. Emotionally abusive people may also try and get to their former partners through their children. You know your ex, and they know you and exactly the right buttons to push. Be on alert for these and other behaviors which they are used to using to hurt or control you.
Be Careful with Communication
If your ex contacts you and tries to discuss the case, direct them to your attorney. You may receive texts or emails from this individual which are aimed at baiting you into saying something he or she can use against you later. Do not respond to these communications and forward everything to your attorney. If you have to communicate with them regarding non-case issues such as a bill or dropping your children off, keep written information to a minimum. If you must see your ex in person make every effort to do so in a neutral public environment with another person present.
Maintain Boundaries
Your ex will probably make numerous efforts to try to get you to relax certain requirements during the case or to talk to them alone. Decide immediately to keep and maintain your boundaries. This person has spent a long time figuring out how to control you with their abuse. You need to remain committed to the fact that you are done giving in to his or her tactics and refrain from giving into their behaviors.
Leaving an emotionally abusive partner is more easily said than done, but it is possible to get away from this kind of unhealthy relationship. At the Draper Firm, we have knowledgeable divorce and attorneys who can help you figure out what you need to do to protect yourself. Contact us online or at 866-767-4711 today to set up your free, no-obligation consultation in one of our two locations: Kissimmee, and Orlando.
