Starting Over after Divorce
Divorce can be one of the most emotionally and financially devastating experiences a person can have. After the process is complete, the newly divorced person is left to recover from the pain of losing their marriage and rebuild their lives. While staring over after divorce may seem daunting, there are steps you can take to get back on your feet.
Financial Adjustments
Going from sharing a home and finances with your former spouse to being on your own can be a difficult change. While you may not have control over the difference to your financial situation, you can control your budgeting and spending. Sit down and create a realistic budget which includes some savings. Even putting a small amount aside each month is a positive habit and can help you be prepared should you have unexpected expenses. If you feel your money is too tight identify any costs which you believe are unnecessary and ways you can streamline your spending. With careful planning you can develop a workable budget and prepare for the future.
Self-Care
Going through a divorce can be a grueling emotional ordeal which can leave even the most balanced person feeling exhausted. Recovering from this experience is going to take time, and it is vital that you take care of yourself during the process. At the most basic level, you can manage your health by being mindful of your nutrition and sleeping habits. You can also reach out to friends if you need to talk about what you are feeling. Your support system can offer companionship and insight when you need it the most.
Being Social
Transitioning from being part of a married couple to being on your own may seem alien and intimidating. You may have become accustomed to attending social events as a couple and now feel uncomfortable being on your own. However, social isolation can lead to negative emotions. It would be best if you could find things you can do in the community or with friends which help you get out of your home. There may also be different area groups which are for divorced individuals to enjoy activities together. While it may be difficult at first, by taking small steps you can adjust to enjoying your social life without your ex.
Getting used to life after a divorce won’t happen overnight, but by being patient with yourself and making certain efforts, you can adjust to your new life. At the Draper Firm, we understand the challenges of going from being married to divorced and can help you prepare for what is to come. Please contact us today to schedule a free consultation.
